I frequently read the Biggest Loser Olivia and Hannah's blog and recently they talked about the Bad Days. .....the days that we fall back into old habits
.....the days that we are discouraged
.....the days when all we want to eat is...well everything we see.
In this video, Olivia mentions something that was something I never though to do. Make a list of all the things you did right. If you are like me and get to the end of the day and can only think about all the ways that you didn't meet your own expectations or others for you, this could change your life.
So instead of making a list of all the ways I have failed....I am going to make a list of the things I did right...the small wins!
Here are 3 ways that this idea has begun to change my year:
1. My job: As a teacher of 12-13 year olds, I constantly feel like I am losing the battle to win their attention, their focus, and any ounce of academic success for them. I feel like I have been losing the battle for the past couple of months.
Thursday as I drove away from school, I wept because I felt that I had let down my students by harboring frustrations from hour to hour. My impatience grew when they didn't understand something I thought I had explained clearly and the apathy they showed to this assignment I was excited about, drove me crazy!!
Today, could have been about the same, but I am choosing to celebrate the small wins. The little things that went right today.
- I didn't have to write a detention or referrals today.
- The student who didn't do anything yesterday in class, completed his assignment today with little prompting.
- We had library day, which meant that they worked on a fun activity.
- I got all my grades updated.
- I make Certificates of Awesome for the kids who did great first semester!
- Created a rubric for in class debates on Monday.
- Our newest ELL student who doesn't speak any English seemed to make some friends.
- I found out that I would look really cute in hipster glasses. (All the girls at least thought so!)
- My 7th hour were very concerned with whether I was having a good day today.
- I had fun!!
2. Mental/Physically: Over the past 3 months, I have gained about 10 lbs back from where I was. Big picture, this is not that big of a deal. However, I was so close to my goal weight and I got off track after I ran my 3rd Half marathon this fall. As I try to get back on track with eating well, (Let's be honest, that is the hardest part of losing weight and I am a stress eater!) thinking about the small wins of the day helps me be more positive about my progress.
So this week instead of thinking about the gummy worms that I ate on Monday night, I want to think about my small wins!
- I worked out 5 days this week.
- I ran outside on Wednesday!
- Resisted the 2 offers of doughtnuts on Thursday (This was the stressful day!)
- Instead of getting Chipotle with friends on Friday night, I made an omelet! (Saved me money too!)
- Had salads 2 days for lunch this week!
- I didn't eat anything after dinner 4 times this week.
- Resisted buying snacky foods that keep me munching!
- No cookies or chips for me during a meeting today at church! (It wouldn't have been worth it.)
- Got up early this morning and ran with a friend. (Big win since I usually like to run by myself!)
3. 2012 Reflections: Don't get me wrong 2012 was a great year and ended with a fantastic trip Down Under, but I started thinking about all the things that didn't happen instead of all the things that did.
So here are some good things that happened in 2012!
- Made a lot of new friends!
- Ran 2 Half Marathons
- Traveled to Denver to visit one of my favorite people in the world.
- Took 7 hours of Grad classes
- Survived year 3 of teaching.
- Made it very close to my goal weight!
- Put myself out there and went on a few dates! (Didn't turn out too well, but it was a good first step!)
- Stepped into a different role at church
- Said yes to a lot of things! (Color Run, going to Concerts, going to Australia!)
- Traveled halfway around the world to AUSTRALIA!
- Took on a lot of new things for my job and personally.
See I would say that 2012 was a great year. I easily discredit it because not everything I wanted to happen happened....but whose to say that God doesn't want to spread out the good things.
Ultimately, making a list like this brings to light the fact that as much as a fail, God is so abundantly gracious to me and does not leave me alone in that failure.
For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.
(Ephesians 2:8-9 ESV)
In what areas would it be helpful to make a list of your small wins? What are some ways that you can practice grace to yourself or others around you?